Confessions of a Graphophilia

Marriage - Facts and Fabrications

Marriage is a mutually agreed upon relation in which both the members strive for each other's happiness. In the sense, there is respect and love for each other that in turn becomes the reason for happiness for each of them and for the family at large.

I have recently stumbled upon this article here and do not agree with the pictures and statements. The following is my take on each of the pictures:

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Every person's body undergoes physical changes irrespective of marriage or gender. Not many in their 30s or 40s look the same as they were looking in their teens. Of course, the amount of change in physical look varies from person to person based on many factors like health, body metabolism, adaptation to the location of stay and few other unavoidable reasons.
This figure that shows that a woman's body changes after marriage is not based on factual reasons, rather, that statement may or may not be true, if true, does not hold true for all sections of society, also, that statement need not be true only on the reason of marriage alone.

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How many married women feel this is correct? Is it really true? I don't think so. Even after marriage you are welcome to eat whatever you like, just that, when you are cooking you cook keeping all the family members in mind. It is also true that, the woman does not cook any item that the husband alone likes to eat. Being in a family, you either cook one dish that caters to all or multiple dishes that cater to all. The point is, no one should be ignored and this would obviously not happen once both the wife and husband consider they are in a family of their own.

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I seriously didn't get the point this picture is trying to convey. But, when there is a difference of opinion, you can talk to resolve. Difference of opinions may arise in any family, be it pre-marriage or post-marriage. When you think you are in own family, you will develop some level of comfort and talk to people to resolve any differences. Even post-marriage, once everyone in the house considers every other as an important family member, people take time to respect, talk and share.

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Well, even after marriage, a woman can go out in high heels. Who says no?
And doing chores? This talks about the changes in one's life as each phase passes by. Again, this is definitely not based on marriage. Even an unmarried woman or man  would have to do her/his chores when he thinks he is responsible of his place of living and it is untidy.
This actually brings up a sense of responsibility that comes not just with marriage but with growing age and moving phase. Of course, there is no rule for taking up responsibility. Each one would have his own age to define what he should be responsible for. This is personal matter.

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Is it!!! A woman can still take time out and spend in perming her hair or maintaining her persona. Doesn't she have enough time? Then think about how well one can be organised and how time can be used effectively. Not having enough time is not just because of getting married but because of the added sense of responsibility. This directs the answer to point #4. Also, I know many married women who spend time on toning themselves. Not something wrong. Each one has a boosting point or something which they enjoy doing or something that boosts their spirit. Point is, you have to realise what you are crazy for and take time out to do it. 

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OK. This one is similar to point #4, doing chores at home. Needn't explain more.

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The second picture is one in the kitchen. So, you mean a married woman spends all day in kitchen? If any one is, I would suggest to think over on time management. Dressing up for cooking as in picture is apt. And who says a married woman doesn't dress up pretty?!? A woman is always pretty no matter what dress she wears and of course, she dresses up pretty at every occasion. Every woman has her own definition of looking 'pretty'. Look around, there is still that innate beauty in every woman irrespective of age or phase in life.

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This is also same as doing chores i.e., point #4. It is all about time management in different phases of life. A woman can always do grocery shopping, vegetable shopping as well as her personal shopping with proper time management. Or are you saying that a married woman does vegetable shopping 30 days a month, 365 days a year? Get the facts right. There is always ample of time for personal shopping.

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Well, any person cannot wake up at the same time as he/she woke up in their childhood or teen years. The timetable changes when college starts, again when one is employed, again when one is married or takes up some other personal activity, again when in parenthood. This is life. Life cannot just stand still at one phase. It moves on. Even if it were not for a marriage, a woman may have to wake up early for job or for work out or for any other personal assignment. This is a sense of responsibility that comes with taking up any activity not just marriage. And needless to say, even a man starts to wake up early with changing responsibilities.

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Oh, so you mean a woman does not have fun when driving with spouse in the pillion seat? Or you mean friends of unmarried women do not advise her for proper driving?
I would say, not at all true.


This post intends to convey the following message:

1. It is not just marriage that brings change in a woman's life
2. Even guy's life changes with marriage or any other phase
3. A man who probably had never saved a penny in his teens starts planning for insurance and investments. 
4. Every person's life undergoes changes with growing age and moving phase irrespective of gender
5. Consider the positive side of life by having a broader outlook

(This is only my opinion and need not be agreed upon by every other soul living in this universe. Anyone disagrees is always welcome to come up with his/her own article.)
(All images are taken from here.)

Woman's Day 2015

As we celebrate this woman's day and talk about all the powerful things associated with the feminine character let us not forget that iota of libidinous nature hidden deep inside every(OK, i am not actually generalizing) male soul.
Every girl either virtually or physically becomes the subject of sexual viewing. 
A first grade girl is in the same level as a teen in this perspective. Except that the prior does not understand why her parents are really worried and keep asking her how her day was in the school or how her journey back home was in that school bus or school auto. 
Until an average woman is respected and not looked down as a subject of sex, she cannot be happy in all her experience with the society and surely, there is no place for happy woman's day as she keeps thinking of all that she has faced and most other young girls will be facing at some point of their interaction with male gender of society.
Amidst all this, please do not forget that you have a voice and you can raise that. Let there be no action taken against the culprit (which is what is happening right from the auto driver who molested a school girl to the bank employee who eyed a teen having all the drooling in his mind to the gang rape accused in nirbhaya case), but dear woman, please do not stay calm. Yell, shout, talk, write, type, post, do whatever, please don't stay calm. Staying calm and not reacting out of fear is doing injustice not only to the culprit and the situation but also to your own self which becomes a source of mental weakness. Have the courage to react and walk out of the situation not caring about the outcome and carry that confidence in all other areas of your life. You are sure to succeed.

ARE YOU SURE YOU ARE DONE PACKING YOUR DIAPER BAG? | DIAPER BAG ESSENTIALS

Diapers – Check!

Spare Dress – Check!

Wipes – Check!

Trash Bag, Sanitizer, Hand towels….. Check, check, check!

One of the challenges of having a cute, little smiling kid is to be ever-ready with a checklist of items to carry along with you. You step out of the house; baby decides that it is the right time to do a little pooping. You suddenly recall that you have missed something as trivial as a trash bag that’s specifically needed for this purpose. Gee!!!

No matter how many times we go through a mental checklist, how many times we check the diaper bag, at times, we simply forget something very important. The following are few essentials that NEEDS to be in your diaper bag. Be warned; the list can grow bigger based on personal requirements and/or emergencies.

What do YOU need for the Diaper Bag

Diapers

Definitely needed when outside. How can you have a diaper bag without diapers??

Changing Mats

A Plastic mat or a Cloth mat will do well. Quite often we over estimate our speed compared to that of the baby’s. You think you can change a diaper in just seconds and within no time.  Just when you change the diaper, you realize that the baby has urinated! This is when the changing mats come into picture. After all, it’s quite difficult to change a diaper holding the baby in one hand.

Wet Wipes

Never ever, ever forget these. For a baby, hygiene is quite essential. To keep your baby rash-free, wet wipes need to be a part of your diaper bag.

Spare Clothing

Required if baby needs to be changed when out. Some of the reasons vary from ‘Baby gets uncomfortable in a particular dress’ to ‘The dress has been stained’. Take a sweater set along if the weather is cold or chilly.

Hand Sanitizer

The other day, we picked up one of our relatives in our car. She just got off a long bus journey and quite obviously needed to wash her hands before she held the baby. Hand Sanitizer comes in handy in situations like these.

Trash Bags

Throwing out the used diapers might not always be an option. Keep trash bags as a safety precaution

Baby Diaper Bag Checklist

Baby Food Needs

You need to feed your baby frequently – sometimes as many as eight times a day! Carry a milk bottle or milk powder, baby food and a water bottle. If your baby is used to Sippy cup, carry one along. Have a clean set of baby feeding tools like bowl and spoon as well. Carry along bibs if you have space left in your bag.

Hand Cloth

To wipe those drools away.

Baby Towel

Will come in handy in case the baby needs to be protected from pollution or sun. Carry along a baby blanket if you baby is habituated to it or it’s cold weather out there.

Rattles

The rattles/toys work like miracles when baby gets cranky for no reason. The diaper bag becomes your magician’s box when you see baby becoming calm as you keep taking out the toys one at a time!

Diaper rash creams and first aid

Always carry diaper rash creams, baby lotions, baby oil and other creams. Medicines for common cold, fever and such are important to be carried along.

You might want these too…

Consider carrying Baby Nail Cutter and Nursing Cover depending on your needs

How to choose your Diaper Bag

1. Consider buying two diaper bags – one for short trips and the other for those long journeys.
2. Buy one with clear compartments – saves time when looking for an item.
3. Couple of open pockets would be useful – to quickly reach out to a hand cloth in case of spit-up
4. Pack baby food in an additional zip pouch to avoid any leaks.

Shopping list for diaper bag and the above listed essentials can be found at:

http://www.scrapehere.com/Diaper-Bags-and-essentials-12436/collection.html

DO YOU HAVE A BIT OF ORANGE IN YOUR PINK?

Many girls surely have pink in their wardrobe. It’s chic, but, do you have some orange to go with the pink? ‘Cause the pink-orange combo is what is in right now and you definitely need to make some room in your wardrobe out there.

Pink may be the favourite colour of many girls and you most likely find at least one pink in your collection. Now look at it with some orange around. Isn’t it eye catching? It sure is. Orange complements pink and completes it. The bright colours will liven up the day, any time.

No matter how you want to dress up, be it ethnic or a more western gear, to-go combo of the season is, for sure, pink with orange.

 

The Pink-Orange Bag

Gear up your wear with accessories, also, in this fab combo. Try out either the orange-pink handbag for a classy look or the orange-pink clutch for the chic look.

 The Pink-Orange Shoes

The Pink-Orange shoes are a total fab fashion statement! Wear it on a colourful dress or a dull, sober colours, the effect is simply ravishing. Check out the GoBahamas Pink-Orange Flip Flops; they are the best!

The Pink-Orange Ethnic Look

Dress up in a pink kurta with orange leggings and see how cool it looks. Now, team this up with the right handbag and a bracelet. Love what you’re wearing? So do we!

So, right away, open your wardrobe to see if you can pair up some pink with orange because just plain colours of pink or orange is too mainstream ;)

We are sure you would love the fab combo collection at: http://www.scrapehere.com/The-fab-combo-12844/collection.html

(This was originally written for blog.scrapehere.com)